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Getting your Needs Met with Neuro Linguistic Programing
Date Added: November 27, 2010 05:24:19 PM
Author: Joe Isaac
Category: Alternative Therapies: Neuro Linguistic Programming

Getting Your Needs Met Not getting our emotional needs met is one of the 3 primary causes of depression. It is well worth periodically checking out what our needs are and whether they are being met. There is an emotional ‘needs audit’ you can get off the internet – see link below. Give yourself permission to meet your needs in healthy ways. Blocks + ‘It’s selfish’ – Women especially are often conditioned to put others’ needs first. Looking after yourself and getting your needs met isn’t selfish; it’s healthy. You can put yourself first sometimes. Be a model for your kids, friends and colleagues. You can be your own best friend rather than your own worst enemy! + Guilt – guilt is unproductive and often unnecessary. Ask yourself where the guilt originates. What is the positive intention of the guilt? Often it is not based on fact, but ‘woolly’ thinking. Take responsibility for yourself. + Inner critic – undermining self-talk can make everything into a trial rather than a pleasure. Often, inner critics are not even us, but someone else! Think who it is you are speaking for when you say things to yourself which are hyper-critical. Often, it is others’ beliefs which underpin this negative self-talk. + Fear of failure, or success - Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others won’t feel insecure around you. Is your fear rational or irrational? What are you doing instead of living your dreams? + ‘Be Strong’ – Being strong is great, but if we try to be strong all the time it can stop us getting the support we need. Wise people use all the resources available to them. Life Planning Who are you? Accept yourself as you actually are, now. Who do you want to be? What is your dream life? The needs audit can be a good starting point. Create a plan to get where you want to be. Add detail, timings and specifics, and stick to it. What matters to you? What values are important to you? What is it that makes you feel good? Commit your time and energy to what you feel passionately about – what makes your heart leap! If a big change feels too difficult or scary for you, shuffle towards it in little steps if you need to. Emotional Needs Audit form – http://www.hgi.org.uk/downloads/Emotional Needs Audit Form.pdf © Produced by Joe Isaac - Counselling 07968 730769 www.elementsinbalance.co.uk 023 92 733920
 
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